Rude dating behavior and responses
At this point, a lot of us seem to be agree on the fact that ghosting totally sucks, but I'd venture to say that breadcrumbing is even worse.It's basically ghosting's sadistic cousin: instead of disappearing completely, the person leads you on by giving you attention to think that they're still into you.The first time I met someone I was interested in post-break-up, none of those rules were relevant.
After six years of the security, support, and occasional suffocation that comes with a long-term monogamous relationship, I recently became single for the first time as an adult out of college.I remember feeling obliged, when I got a message from a woman who didn’t interest me, to try and craft a nice reply that didn’t make her feel bad about herself. If there’s no contact, it’s harder to take it personally.I also remember sending notes to women I found interesting and getting absolutely no reply at all. I may not even notice that whomever she was didn’t reply.You may not be interested, but you can’t just pretend that the person isn’t standing there talking to you. So we have developed all manner of ways of saying no thanks, in what is hopefully the kindest way possible. And a couple times, women I have written to actually have replied with nice no thank you messages. And – here’s the odd part – a little uncomfortable.None of us likes to be rejected, and if we have any empathy about us at all we’re uncomfortable inflicting pain and/or embarrassment on someone – especially since that person’s only crime is thinking we’re kinda neat. When I first signed up for back in 2010 I didn’t know the rules. It turns out that I much prefer being ignored to being acknowledged in cases of rejection.
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Unfortunately, modern dating — though more convenient in a lot of ways — has brought with it an onslaught of painful new ways to have our romantic dreams crushed.